Monday, June 7, 2010

Dear Beloved,

“The only thing to fear is fear itself.” “God did not give us the spirit of fear but of love, peace and a sound mind.” Stop being scared already!

In order for someone to have dominance over you, you have to give up your power. A person can only do to you what you allow them to do. If you want to live your life with peace and a sound mind, you have to pray and Trust GOD to guide you, strengthen you and protect you. Stop being afraid to defend yourself and live your life the way you were mean to live it. The way God intended. You weren’t meant to be a doormat or a slave to anyone. You are a goddess: beautiful, intelligent, and stronger than you think. Put on the whole Armor of God and Slay the Dragon.

Look within yourself, discover who you really are and act accordingly. You are protected under the Blood of Jesus. Not get up and fight. Don’t you dare turn and run!

Love you always,

Love Yourself First

“If you don’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?” (Rupaul) Never have these words rang more true. I dare take it a step further and say, “If you don’t love yourself, don’t expect anyone else to.”
One of the things I find wrong with relationships, is one or both partner’s self esteem issue. They deem themselves not worthy of having the other, therefore put up with a whole lot of unnecessary BS because they feel they can’t do any better. Whether or not they got picked on as a child or fell victim to an abusive relationship, the symptoms are all the same.
As a person who has struggled with weight all my life, I can attest to this problem first hand. I was one of those girls picked on, told she was always overweight, constantly reminded of things I needed to change. Unfortunately, I still carry those things with me and suffer from self esteem issues. When I look in the mirror, I don’t see what others see, I see what I need to change. Therefore, I don’t demand or command the respect due me because I often feel unworthy of it. I know I’m intelligent, friendly, outgoing but sexy I don’t always feel. This leads to constant rejection even in my own mind. I expect people to reject me or brush me off, never give me a second glance because that’s what I’m used to. No matter how much I know someone loves me, until I’m totally in love with me I’ll never be able to accept someone else’s love. So what do I/we do?
First find things about ourselves we love (which technically should be everything). Change the things we don’t like instead of complaining about it. Carry ourselves in such a way that will make the most unattainable person bow at our feet. We need to stop projecting our feelings of insecurities onto our mates and then get upset with them because of what we perceive to be true. Stop with the “I knew you were gonna do this and that!” Stop expecting failure and be happy with ourselves. It’s the key to our happiness. Stop accepting BS Behavior because we don’t feel we deserve better. Stop feeling sorry for ourselves. Stop Crying. Pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and start again.
You have to be happy with and love yourself first. If you don’t you can’t expect to get it elsewhere. Love yourself, love yourself, love yourself, love myself first!
Feel free to chime in if you can offer more advice to someone or to me. I’m open.

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Happy Crack Has Swept the City

"Yo man, let me get that grape, naw mix it with a little bit of cherry with some pink lemonade on the side!"

I'm sure you are probably wondering what in the world I am talking about. Im referencing the the new schoolyard phenom: Happy Crack! Happy Crack is a mixture of Kool-Aid, sugar and a little bit of water. This mixture crystalizes to a texture similar to fun dip. Its all the rage in the Elementary School Playgrounds and busses.

Now back in the day we used to make this same mixture but never assigned a name to it nor did we take it to school and attempt to sell it. The children of today have taken it to a whole new level and have turned the Elementary School's into New Jack City. "We taking over the Carver Elementary School!" The students have resorted to mixing, bagging and selling the Kool-Aid with the intent of obtaining a sugar high and burst of flavorful goodness as a means of starting or ending their day. While this sounds absurb, the schools here in Columbia have taken a very serious approach to containing this problem. Children have been reported, slapped with possession with intent to distribute charges and suspended from school. The rationale, the children should not be mimicking anything as deadly and addictive as Crack nor should they be in the habit of mixing anything; the makings of Meth Lab operations. While I understand the seriousness of this situation, I can't help but wonder if the name was something else would it be such a big deal?

Chime in and let me know what you think about the Happy Crack Revolution!